NBSB, Still Chosen: When God Says 'Wait,' He Means 'Grow'

 The Unexpected Scroll

As I was scrolling through YouTube recently, searching for something meaningful to watch, I stumbled upon a sermon by a Pastor from 1128 Ministry titled "How To Live In Singleness." I decided to watch the full 40-minute message, and I was surprised by how much it shifted my entire perspective on "the wait."

Admit it or not, we Christians often treat singleness as a waiting room where we sit until "real life" begins. But what if this season is actually a unique gift given to us by God for a specific purpose?

The "Behind in Life" Feeling

As a 26-year-old Christian woman—turning 27 this year—I am what many call an "NBSB" (No Boyfriend Since Birth). While I watch friends my age enter the world of dating or walk down the aisle, I’ll admit the pressure can feel heavy. Sometimes, I feel like I am falling behind in life. I’ve caught myself believing the myth that marriage is the only way to achieve the life God wants for me, or that I can only serve Him fully once I have a husband by my side.

But as I listened to that message, I realized these are all misconceptions. My capacity to serve God isn't on hold; it is active and needed right now.

Myths Vs. Truth

I didn't realize it then, but the enemy uses these myths during our "waiting" to make us feel immature or incomplete. If our focus isn't fully on Christ, these lies can take root. Here is the truth I am learning to embrace:

The Myth: I am "behind" because I am single at 27.

The Truth: Singleness is not a disease; it is a gift. It is your opportunity to serve the Kingdom of God in a special and unique way of your own.

The Myth: I am "Junior Varsity" or incomplete without a spouse.

The Truth: If Jesus Christ died on the cross to save you and He sends His Holy Spirit to live in you, there is nothing "Junior varsity" about you. You are already whole and complete in Him.

The Myth: My value comes from my relationship status.

The Truth: Your value doesn't come from being married; it comes from the God who loved you from the start.

Choosing the Chosen Season

So, what should we do? We must guard our hearts and shift our mindsets. Our highest calling isn't to find a partner, but to be devoted to Christ alone. We can respond to this gift just as Paul did:

"I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances." — Philippians 4:11 (NIV)

Be content in your season. Build godly relationships, hang out with friends who help your relationship with God grow, spread the Gospel, and serve Him with all your heart, with all your soul, and mind during this time. Prioritize knowing Jesus deeply and intimately. Only then will you feel true contentment. As you know Jesus, you allow His love to fill you up until it overflows into all your other relationships.

As Pastor Kim said, "Only when His unchanging and unconditional love fills you up until it overflows—only then can you finally stop looking at other people to complete you. You can finally stop resenting your singleness and start finding contentment in Him".

I’ve learned that when God chooses a specific season for us, He uses it to help us grow in faith in a way nothing else can. If God has chosen this season of singleness for me, I am choosing to "choose it also". I want to be bold for Jesus, take risks for Him, and find my contentment in the love that surpasses all knowledge.

This blog is one of the first bold decisions I have made for Jesus Christ. May it reach those who are in the same season as me—people who need to know they are already chosen, valued, and complete in Jesus Christ.

"...to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God." — Ephesians 3:18-19 (NIV)

How To Live In Singleness

To God Be All The Glory!

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